The person adopting the strategy is usually a chronic complainer.

采取这种策略的人通常是一个习惯性抱怨的人。

Now, most of us aren't help-rejecting complainers, or at least we don't believe we are.

现在，我们大部分人不是拒绝帮助的抱怨者，或者至少我们不相信自己是。

Jake Burton, 15, has advanced craniodiaphyseal dysplasia. Was admitted last night after complaining of headaches. And he's not a complainer.

Jake bBurton，15岁，进展期颅骨骨干发育异常。昨晚入院，声称头痛。他不是小题大做。

What does the author advise people to do to chronic complainers?

3. 作者建议人们对长期抱怨者做什么？

How can one stop being a chronic complainer according to the author?

5. 根据作者的说法，一个人如何才能不再是一个长期抱怨者？

What happens when chronic complainers receive over-validation?

4. 当长期抱怨者接受过度验证时会发生什么？

What is characteristic of a chronic complainer, according to psychiatrist Eric Berne?

1. 根据精神病学家 Eric Berne 的说法，长期抱怨者的特征是什么？

Let me tell you something about complaining and crying that's really, really gonna hurt for all you complainers out there.

让我告诉你一些关于抱怨和哭泣的事情，这真的会伤害所有抱怨者。

Yeah now it makes you seem like a complainer and no one wants to hire a complainer exactly all right so this is an interesting topic.

是的，现在它让你看起来像一个爱抱怨的人，而且没有人愿意雇用一个爱抱怨的人，所以这是一个有趣的话题。

If nothing else showing that you've tried to solve the problem yourself, before you take it further, makes it clear that you're not just a complainer. Why don't you send an email requesting a meeting with him in private?

在采取进一步措施之前，最起码你表现出愿意自己解决问题，这能证明你不是一个只会抱怨的人。你何不给他发一封邮件请求和他面谈呢？

You don't want to be viewed as the complainer, and so you except, and maybe either are complicit with sweeping a lot of things under the rug because you just want to do your work.

- 你不想被视为抱怨者， 所以你除外，并且可能因为你只想做你的工作而与扫除地毯下的很多事情串通一气。

Now, maybe this person is a complainer, maybe they are a whiner, or maybe there's someone who is verbally abusive to you but whatever it is, they have this toxic pattern of behavior and it's really starting to bring you down.

现在，也许这个人是个爱抱怨的人， 也许他们是个爱发牢骚的人，或者也许有人在辱骂你， 但不管是什么， 他们都有这种有毒的行为模式， 这真的开始让你失望了。

Finally, Bruno (Bruno) in Brazil has a question that does not begin with a " B." It begins with an " S." Bruno wants to know the meaning of the phrase, " Such a." " He's such a good friend." " She is such a complainer."

最后，巴西的布鲁诺（Bruno）有一道不以“B” 开头的题。 它以“S” 开头。布鲁诺想知道这句话的意思， “这样一个。 ” “他真是个好朋友。