All this to save our collective selves from our own individual impulses.

所有这一切都是为了将​​我们的集体自我从我们自己的个人冲动中拯救出来。

I'm curious — so in graduate school when I was studying relationships and communication within relationships, there was this notion that you and the person you're in a relationship with are your individual selves, but together you create a collective self.

我很好奇——所以在研究生院，当我研究人际关系和人际关系中的沟通时，有这样一种观念，即你和与你有关系的人是你个人的自我，但你们在一起创造了一个集体自我。