Conventional wisdom tells us that when one stands up to a bully, the bully will inevitably back down and respect you for your courage.

传统智慧告诉我们当有人起身对抗霸凌者时，霸凌者必然退却 并尊重你的勇气。

Counter to what we might believe, people who are the most likely to gain power in a group are actually the emotionally intelligent ones who focus on others, practice generosity and aren't the bullies.

在一个群体中最有可能获得权力的人，实际上是那些高情商的人。他们关心他人，慷慨大方，且不仗势欺人。