But perhaps less time asking the more salient question: what can I do to help this valued relationship endure?

但也许我们会花更少的时间去思考一个更突出的问题：我能做些什么来让这段珍贵的关系持续下去？

So please value this relationship a bit more.

所以请多珍惜这段关系。

No, because I value relationships over money.

不 因为我把情义看得比钱重。

You might think it's because we value our existing relationships over our potential relationships.

您可能认为这是因为我们重视现有关系胜过潜在关系。

But you may find that while the other person didn't treat you as you would have liked, they still value your relationship.

但是你可能会发现虽然这个人没有以你想要的方式对待你，但是他/她依旧珍视你们之间的关系。

But perhaps less time asking  the more salient question: what can I do to help this  valued relationship endure?

但也许更少的时间问更突出的问题：我能做些什么来帮助维持这段宝贵的关系？

And while the pain of rejection often increases the more we value a relationship, even rejections by relative strangers can hurt our feelings.

虽说遭到拒绝的痛苦通常会随着我们对某段关系的重视程度增加，但就算是陌生人的拒绝也会伤害我们的感情。

You're valuing relationships and harmony, like you said, you're not valuing directness and honesty maybe as much, and that's okay.

正如你所说，你重视关系与和谐，但也许你不太重视直接和诚实，但这没关系。

By making their relationship with Nature their highest value, the Stoic can actually overcome Fortune by seeing everything that she does as a gift.

通过将他们与自然的关系视为最高价值，斯多葛主义者实际上可以战胜命运，将她所做的一切视为一份礼物。

Unfortunately, after asking these questions, you might still conclude that a person close to you doesn't value your relationship as much as you do.

不幸的是，问了这些问题之后，你依旧有可能会发现这个与你亲近的人不像你这么珍视这段关系。

So in the example of housing, if we value relationships, sharing a home isn't depriving ourselves of space, but giving us an opportunity to spend more time with our loved ones.

因此，以住房为例，如果我们重视人际关系，共享住所不是剥夺了我们的空间，而是给了我们一个机会，让我们有更多的时间与我们所爱的人在一起。