I mean you miss a lot of the realism of touching and tactfulness with people and interchanging.

我的意思是，你错过了许多与人接触以及交流的现实接触。

With great tactfulness the Chinese assumed that he was still on good terms with everybody, and the four exiles allowed the assumption to stand.

中国人非常机智地认为他与每个人都保持着良好的关系，而四个流亡者也接受了这种假设。