When we're on the receiving end of a difficult insight into our failings, what makes us bristle and deny everything isn't generally the accusation itself (we know our flaws all too well) , it's the surrounding atmosphere.

当我们面临失败的不同意见时，让我们发怒和否认所有事情的通常并不是批评本身（我们都清楚自己的不足之处），而是周遭的氛围。