Essentially eroding their sanity until they're at the gaslighters mercy.

基本上就是侵蚀了他们的理智，直到操纵者怜悯。

These are only some of the things a gaslighter will say to you.

这些只是“煤气灯操控者”会对你使用的部分话术。

As a disclaimer, we want to note that not everyone who says these phrases is automatically a gaslighter.

作为免责声明，我们想要强调的是，并不是每个说这些话的人都是“煤气灯操控者”。

And gaslighter will build on that fear.

“煤气灯”会在这种恐惧之上建立控制。

Unfortunately, one of the gaslighters goals is to shred this definition through persistent lies.

不幸的是，他们的目标之一就是通过持续不断的谎言粉碎这个定义。

So experts have a few ideas about what's going on in the mind of a gaslighter.

因此，专家们对气灯的心理状况有一些想法。

Gaslighting is intentional and a gaslighter knows full well what they're saying and what they are doing.

“煤气灯效应”是一种有意而为之的行为，“煤气灯操控者”很清楚他们在说什么，做什么。

Gaslighting is intentional and a gaslighter knows exactly what they're saying and what they're doing.

“煤气灯效应”是有意而为之，“煤气灯操控者”清楚地知道他们在说什么、在做什么。

The gaslighter will say things like: " You're overreacting" or " You're just being lazy, get up already" .

“你反应过度了”或者“你只是在偷懒，快动起来吧" 。

A gaslighter might question somebody else's memory or forcefully express their opinions until the other person just concedes.

煤气灯效应可能会让你质疑别人的记忆，或者强硬地表达自己的观点，直到别人承认为止。

And since gaslighters and their victims often have personal relationships, walking away doesn't always feel like an option.

而且，由于煤气灯效应的使用者和受害者通常都有私人关系，离开并不总是一种选择。

If there's someone in your life who insistently acts like they know everything about you better than you do — they might be a gaslighter.

如果在你的生活中有一个人坚持认为他们比你更了解你的一切——他们可能就是“煤气灯”。

They'll spread lies and so distrust and you and everyone around you, making the gaslighter seem to be the only reliable figure.

他们会对你及周围人散布谎言制造不信任，使他们看起来像是唯一的可信赖的。

You may have heard these before or even said them yourself, but this does not necessarily mean you have been gaslighted or that you are a gaslighter.

你可能听过，甚至自己也说过，但这并不一定意味着你陷入了“煤气灯效应”，或你就是一个“煤气灯操控者”。

Five, " It's your anxiety that made me do the things I do." This is a common response when a gaslighter gets called out for their behavior.

五，“这是你逼我的。”当一个“煤气灯操控者”的行为被人发现时，这是他们一个常见的回应策略。

A 1994 study published in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy suggests that a gaslighter is trying to regulate their own emotions by controlling interactions with other people, and other clinicians and academics agree.

1994年发表在《精神分析与心理治疗》上的一项研究表明，煤气灯效应使用者试图通过控制与他人的互动来调节自己的情绪，其他临床医生和学者对此表示赞同。

By undermining their victim's ability to make sense of what's really going on, a gaslighter can gain control over the relationship and resist any challenges to their worldview, which might make them feel uncomfortable.

通过削弱受害者理解事情真相的能力，使用者可以控制这段关系，抵御任何可能让他们感到不舒服的世界观挑战。