Or they'll insinuate that there is simply no way to devote oneself to something (ballet or business, being shy or dressing as a fairy) and remain legitimate and loveable.

或者他们会暗示说，如果一个人全身心投入某件事情（芭蕾舞或商业，太过内向或打扮成仙女）是不正常的，也不再可爱。