And when we experience a change that we wouldn't have chosen for ourselves, it's easy to feel that our lives are contracting, that were more limited than before.

当我们经历身不由己的改变时，很容易感觉到我们的生活正在经受压力，且比以前更有受限感。

You must remember that marriage is a life contract, in which general compatibility of temper and worldly position is of more importance than fleeting passion, which never long survives.

你必须记住，婚姻是一份生活契约，在其中，脾气和世俗地位的普遍兼容性比转瞬即逝的激情更重要，后者永远不会长久存在。